In our Thursday tips, we often tell you that the goal in speaking is not to look comfortable or to have great stories to tell with nice slides to show… the goal is to truly feel what drives all those who know how to defend the cause of their ideas: enjoyment!
Associating pleasure and public speaking is unimaginable for many of you, given that the exercise is above all a painful moment. Because it’s stressful, scary, annoying, because you never have enough time to prepare and many take it badly, to the point of getting sick.
Here are 3 tips so that you can get more and more enjoyment out of presenting.
I get more enjoyment out of … sharing a story I like to tell
Since we were in school, we have learned to structure our ideas like a presentation, like a series of arguments. Not only does this annoy people who listen to us, but it also ends up annoying us too.
One of the keys to having more fun is to structure your remarks in the form of a story that you like to tell. This is the whole point of storytelling, and is why we insist on it so much. When you bring something inspiring and amazing, which is optimized to make the audience want to listen and be interested, you immediately get more pleasure from getting up, overcoming your fear and speaking.
Stop with the modeled arguments, and descriptions of endless charts that interest no one! And start today by structuring a story that you will enjoy embodying, because you’re stating your opinion, you’re sharing things that are important, and you’re presenting solutions that are useful for you and for others.
I get more enjoyment out of… changing things
One source of enjoyment in an organization is participating in seeing things change. But it must be recognized that it doesn’t necessarily happen every day. Many of you complain about overly multi-tiered operations and inertia phenomena that make the slightest change heavy and complex. And this is where your speaking has a role to play.
The purpose of a presentation is not to show that you have worked hard, that you are credible, or that the audience was right to trust you. The real goal of a presentation is to change the people who came to see you. Make your presentation change what people feel, think and do.
By setting this goal, you will be able to measure the influence of your speech on others. Because if you change what people feel, you will see it in their eyes. If you change what people think, they will ask you questions. And, if you change what people do, you’ll see it every day. And all this provides a real source of satisfaction.
I get more enjoyment out of… feeling I’m progressing
Today, in business, speaking management doesn’t exist. Feedback, which is essential to progress, is non-existent or incomplete, even hurtful. As a result, everyone feels a bit abandoned, the manager as well as the colleagues, and you never know if your intervention was objectively good… or not.
One of the keys to progress and having fun is to ask the right questions. After each speech, ask yourself:
- Concerning your audience: Have you improved your relationship with your audience? Have you observed them more? Have you been more in collusion with them?
- Concerning your narration: Have you managed to be more precise in the way you tell your story? Do you have control over your transitions and the impact of your key messages? Do you feel that people are more comfortable with your narrative or language elements?
- Concerning your emotional commitment: Are you more and more able to express your opinion? To express what you feel? To share your motivation and commitment?
All these questions are elements of feedback that will enable you to progress. Answer these questions regularly, ask a few trusted people to do the same and compare answers. Because your view and the view of others are essential in helping you make each speech a moment when you are a better speaker. And that is enjoyable!